How I Met My Significant (American) Other

Many Australian women trek to New York for the adventure of work or travel. And many stumble across the biggest adventure of all – dating and falling head over heels for an American partner.

In my case, dating was the last thing on my mind when I arrived here. It was a complete surprise when I unexpectedly met a very kind and handsome New Yorker and several years later, turned 37 as a newlywed and pregnant with my first child.

I was curious about other Australian women who had met their significant other in New York. How did they meet? What is it about Americans that makes them romantically irresistible? And is an Aussie accent really the silver bullet for landing a hot date?

A handful of brave Australian women agreed to share their experiences about meeting their significant American other. Here’s what they had to say…

How did you meet your American partner?

Whilst I know many happy and enduring couples who met online, the face to face environment of a bar coupled with the socially laid-back atmosphere continues to be a hotbed of romantic introductions:

“I met my husband at college dive bar in Meatpacking in 2010. My friend and her housemate were having birthday drinks, he was friends with the housemate. I could see him out of the corner of my eye and my initial attraction was he had nice arms. He made sure we got introduced and after chatting to him for a while I thought he was intelligent and interesting.” Meghan*

“At a bar – we were both drunk! My best friend came on our first date to make sure he was a good guy!” Kylie*

“In a bar in New Orleans. I was there for JazzFest, he was there for work. We exchanged numbers on scraps of papers. I lost it immediately. He kept it. the rest is history.” Beth

And of course there is always that tried and true method “through friends of friends/colleagues”:

“Chris and I met through a work colleague. He kept showing up at work happy hours and gatherings and after about 3 months, I agreed to go on a date with him and we are now getting married in September this year (in Sydney)!” Natalie

Networking is key when it comes to finding a job and finding love, and in Gabrielle’s case, it proved doubly effective:

“I came to NY on my gap year to visit my sister and she suggested I meet with some friends of hers that had started a new business. They were looking for an intern and she thought I’d be perfect. I met up with her friends at a bar in Brookfield Place where they were celebrating a going away for an ex-colleague. It was here I not only got the internship which turned into my first job in NY but met Brian.” Gabrielle

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What attracted you to your American partner?

Not surprisingly, the same qualities that have captured the hearts of woman for centuries, similarly made a lasting impression on our Aussie women, including chivalry, kindness and making an effort for their partner:

“He is the ultimate gentleman. Dating him was like being in a rom-com movie! He definitely prioritizes me and makes sure that I know I’m his number 1. He wants to work hard to provide for our future family and that is sexy!. He’s also the most positive, generous person I’ve met.” Natalie

“I loved that he made such an effort when we met up. He planned multi-bar dates, or dates centered around activities. I hadn’t dated any guys in Australia that put such effort into dating.” Gabrielle

“He was/is very gentlemanly and always held doors open, pulled out seats and his wallet. I think American men are socially trained in how to be chivalrous.” Meghan*

Some Australian women observe that their American partners are more expressive and forthright than their Aussie counterparts:

“Brian was also very charming and polite, and it’s not that Aussie guys don’t have these qualities, I just feel American guys express them more freely.” Gabrielle

“I think American men are better at showing their women they are committed and want to put their partner first.”, Natalie

On the other hand, it’s those quintessential Australian qualities of being down to earth and easy-going, that are universally appealing:

“A few disastrous dates later my charming ‘dude from New Jersey’ came along. He has the same Aussie type of self-deprecating humor that can only come when your home state is termed “the armpit of America. It also helps he has the most amazing smile and a laugh that lights up everyone around him.” Beth

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What attracted your American partner to you?

Do Americans find an Aussie accent attractive in a partner? In a word, yes, according to our respondents. Additionally, our boldness and adventurous spirit seem to stand out:

“I think my accent helped! Probably also that I am well-travelled. We talked a lot about travel on our first few dates. Most Americans aren’t so I think he found that appealing about me.” Kylie*

“No idea – humor, strong will, curly hair and an accent?” Beth

Plus there’s that old adage that opposites attract, so perhaps being different to the stereotypical American is factor:

“I think Brian loved that I wasn’t an American and was so different to other women in New York. I didn’t have preconceived notions of how dates should go or relationships should go (ie. guy always pays, date/move in/marriage in short order).” Gabrielle

“The more relaxed nature of Australians I think helps with dating in NYC. Some American women can be high maintenance and I think Aussie women are a little more chill. We are also adventurous. If we moved to NYC, we like adventure!” Natalie

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Tell us your story

Did you meet your partner in New York? If so, tell us your story in the comments section below. If you’re ready to date in NYC, watch out for an upcoming post featuring dating tips from Australian women in NYC.


A big thank you to the following Australian women who shared their experiences for this article:

  • Angela: from Adelaide and Brisbane, came here 12 years ago in search of an adventure
  • Beth: Brissie born with an American father, attended college in the US and has remained since
  • Gabrielle: in New York since 2010, on a holiday that resulted in a job offer
  • Kylie*: moved here 16 years ago from WA to pursue a Masters degree at NYU
  • Meghan*: moved here from Melbourne in 2010 to pursue career opportunities
  • Natalie: from Sydney first visited NYC in 2009 and returned to NYC 6 years ago

* Pseudonym used at request of contributor

Author: Angela Tohl

Adelaide-born Angela came to New York in search of the ultimate adventure, by way of Australia and Japan. She juggles technical and copywriting projects, with chasing her kids around (usually on roller skates). Find Angela on Twitter @angelatohl and at Image credit: Susie Lang

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